Pubdate: Sun, 12 Mar 2000 Source: Durango Herald, The (US CO) Copyright: 2000 The Durango Herald Contact: 1275 Main Ave., Durango, Colorado Website: http://durangoherald.com/ DHS Policy Needs To Recognize Shades Of Gray Public school educators say today that it is not just students who are marking time during the school day who are experimenting with drugs in various degrees, but athletes and extra-curricular club members who genuinely want to participate in a full day of learning. The discipline needed for playing shortstop, or editing a school magazine, makes it less likely a student will use drugs, but it doesn't rule it out entirely. Drugs, whether they are marijuana, crack or alcohol, are becoming more and more a part of the teen-age environment, and at a younger age. They pop up in numerous settings off school grounds, and their presence is posing a dilemma for Durango High School athletes and their parents, and school administrators. School rules require that an athlete not only refuse drugs, but not be in their presence. (Some would say if that is the issue proximity, not using it could be much worse. Agreed. But behavior does have a way of rubbing off.) Another student, perhaps from the college, who has a bottle of gin suddenly makes a social occasion off limits. Enter the issue of overdoing in loco parentis. Depending on when the student's sport is played, the ban (on use, as well as proximity) can apply to summer vacation. That has some parents indignant, saying that during the summer they should have the authority to say "yes" or "no" to their child's use of alcohol (a glass of wine at dinner?) at a family gathering without being in violation of the student's agreement with the school to play sports. Those parents are the ones who make a good argument for letting a young person become familiar with alcohol in a family setting, in moderation; that demonizing it can make it more tempting than it should be. There are other cultures that take that tack, and are generally thought to do a better job than Americans of preparing their children to use alcohol, or be comfortable with nudity, for example, by not putting them entirely out of reach. Should that technique of introducing alcohol also apply to other drugs? Almost everyone would say no today, as we do, but times can and will change. The definitive lines between right and wrong that everyone seeks may be elusive: The nondrinking student who helps his friends who are drinking reach home without being a danger on the highways ought to be lauded, not punished. So, too, the teen-ager who is comfortable drinking in moderation is probably less likely to be an explosive drinker beginning the day of his 21st birthday. Should parents' child-rearing techniques take precedence over school requirements when they conflict? If not, are schools saying to parents they know better? The answers will not be easy ones. - --- MAP posted-by: Richard Lake