Pubdate: 03 Mar 2001 Source: Kansas City Star (MO) Copyright: 2001 The Kansas City Star Contact: http://www.kcstar.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/221 Author: Mike Hendricks FROM ONE FATHER TO ANOTHER Dear Prez: It's gotta be tough going through what you're going through with those twin daughters of yours. Kids! You wonder where they leave their brains sometimes. So far we've been pretty lucky at our house. No court dates. But you never know what's going to happen next where teen-agers are concerned. It can't be easy being both leader of the free world and the father of two 19-year-old college kids who not only like to party, but have a knack for getting caught. Which is the bigger headache, North Korea or Jenna? Your University of Texas freshman barely settles up her earlier troubles for illegal possession of alcohol when she gets busted last week for using a fake ID to buy a cocktail. And you can't chalk it up to her being the one that goes to the state school. Her Yalie sister, Barbara, was cited that night for underage drinking. Not even your worst enemies can take pleasure in this, unless they are themselves without fault. And the only guy I know like that is Bill Bennett, and he's your guy. Still, it must be embarrassing when this misbehavior is fodder for the tabloids. Doubly so, considering your own past problems with alcohol, not that you'll talk about either, and I don't blame you. I, too, have evaded the topic of my youthful indiscretions, of which there were many. As fathers, we both know kids make mistakes. They should be punished when they err, but they need understanding and deserve second and third chances. I'm sure you'll give your girls that much. But I'd also like to think you'd offer the same compassion for other kids in similar situations. What I have in mind is this new hard-line approach the government is taking toward college students who've had even minor drug convictions. We ran a story on this in The Star just last week. And what it comes down to is that if a kid so much as smokes a joint and gets caught, he could lose any federal college aid he might be entitled to for a year. Two busts, and it's two years without money for college, and for some kids, that might mean the end of an academic career. One joint, Mr. President. Not heroin, cocaine or LSD -- which are also covered by the law, of course -- but marijuana. It's unfair. Only those convicted of drug crimes are singled out in this way. Not rapists, thieves -- or minors found to be in possession of alcohol, for instance. Yet, upward of 60,000 kids, many of them poor or working class, will be denied financial aid because of this law that punishes drug users, even after they've paid their debt to society. I know this doesn't affect you personally, Mr. Bush. Somehow, I figure Jenna and Barbara don't need Pell Grants and student loans, even if you and Laura made less than the Cheneys last year. And, of course, your girls were cited on alcohol charges, not drug possession. You and I know that's a fine line. Youth is a time for experimentation. And it's lousy of your administration to step up enforcement of a law that might ruin a kid's education just because he made a bad choice or two that harmed no one but himself. Think about it, will you? P.S., I'd have loved to have heard what you had to say to the girls. Any pointers? You never know, advice like that might come in handy around our house someday. - --- MAP posted-by: Andrew