Pubdate: Sat, 15 Dec 2001 Source: Union, The (CA) Copyright: 2001 Nevada County Publishing, Inc. Contact: http://www.theunion.com/index.html Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/957 Author: Hank Starr Note: Hank Starr, a divorce lawyer who lives and practices in Nevada City, writes a monthly column. Bookmark: http://www.mapinc.org/youth.htm (Youth) TAKES A VILLAGE TO DEAL WITH YOUTH DRUG PROBLEM IDLENESS, n. A model farm where the devil experiments with seeds of new sins and promotes the growth of staple vices - - Ambrose Bierce Shock, disbelief and dismay were our reactions to the headline announcing that the kids of Nevada County had the highest percentage of drug use in the entire state. No, not here! How could that be? Many of us moved here to escape the gangs, drugs and crime of the big cities. But don't just shrug your shoulders, and grudgingly accept this news with the dismissive attitude of "It's not my problem." These statistics are a wake-up call, and we had better wake up. There is nothing, absolutely nothing more important than protecting our kids. Whether you have kids or not, even if your kids are already grown, as mine are, it's our most pressing problem, and we had better do something about it - all of us, working together. Let's explore the four principal elements. Stop The Creeps Who Are Supplying The Drugs Let's face it. It's not our kids who are harvesting the marijuana, importing the crack and running the methamphetamine labs. I hope there is a special place in hell for the creeps who are getting rich by hooking our kids. Catching these criminals is the job of law enforcement. All we can do, as private citizens, is to have the courage to notify the police if we get an inkling of where the kids are getting it. Parental Involvement The cursed reality of family life in the 21st century is that in many homes, both parents must work to make ends meet, or even worse, due to divorce, there is only one parent, and she must often work long hours to barely get by. So, when the kids come home from school, there is nothing to do but sit alone, watching TV, or play computer games, or just "hang out." We can't fault the parents for having to work. It just puts more pressure on them during the hours that they are with their children, to talk to them; to listen to them; and even more important, to set a good example. The gateway drugs are tobacco and liquor. Kids know it is illegal for them to smoke or drink. If they can get away with that, it is only a small step for them to smoke a joint or pop a pill for a moment of instant gratification. But parents need help, from the schools, from the community, from all of us. Our schools, with educational programs on the disastrous effects of drugs, and with the "Just Say No" program, have been doing everything they can, and it certainly has had a beneficial effect, but this alone, obviously, has not been effective in stemming the tide of drug use. Peer Pressure It is normal and healthy for children, as they grow, to seek independence - to undergo the process of getting ready to leave the nest and spread their own wings. It is a process in which, little by little, they resist parental control as they attempt to learn self- control. In this process, still desperately needing love, acceptance and understanding, more and more they seek it from their peers rather than their parents. It is in this period of transition that they are most vulnerable. Exacerbating their vulnerability, children, being children, live in the present, with little concept of the long-range effects of their actions. So when one of their friends says, "Don't be a geek. Just try it. It won't hurt you," their parents aren't around to stop them. What can parents do? They need help. The Double Whammy Of Failure And Boredom There are exceptions to every rule, and some child geniuses and star athletes fall to the allure of drugs, but those at greatest risk are those children who do not excel as students, athletes or as socially popular. The most critical age, the age when the majority of children experiment with their first cigarette and their first drink, is in the sixth, seventh and eighth grades. "Satan finds some mischief for idle hands to do," said Isaac Watts 400 years ago, and Satan is still at it. The challenge is for us to give each of our kids interesting activities that fill their lives with opportunities for little successes. Peer pressure can be equally used to promote fulfilling, positive activities instead of harmful ones. This is the area where the schools, the community, and each of us can do the most to reverse the scourge of drug use by our kids. The cheapest and most effective antidote for our kids' boredom and of their experimentation with drugs as a means of instant escape, is positive, supervised recreation. Parks, alone, are not enough if there is no one there to supervise them when they get there, and to teach them the endless possibilities of sports, chess, art, crafts, etc. School gyms are not enough if there is no one there to open them so the kids can get in, and to supervise their activities when they are there. During the course of the past two years, for the first time ever, the Board of Supervisors has made money available for this kind of recreation. The more I investigate what is truly going on in our local county government, the more amazed I am at what the reformist members of the current Board of Supervisors, Bruce Conklin, Barbara Green, Izzy Martin and Peter Van Zant, have been able to accomplish in the relatively short time they have been in office. They have not had more money to spend than their predecessors. However, by creating a working environment where coordination and cooperation between various departments is the rule, instead of every-department-for-itself competition, tens of thousands of dollars have been saved, which funds they are now allocating to help our kids. With these funds, and a like amount from the school budget, Terry McAteer, the superintendent of schools, has been able to pay for rec directors to staff the school gyms every Saturday night in eight of our high schools and middle schools. The surveys, upon which the statistics we recently read were based, were taken two years ago, in January 2000. Now that these gyms are open for the kids to enjoy, together with other steps Terry is implementing, he is confident that the next survey, to be taken this coming February, will show vastly improved results. But there is so much more that could be done, if only he had the resources. The gyms should be open on Friday evenings, as well. And if the resources were available, each of the elementary schools should also have a rec director so their school grounds could be open and supervised with wonderful activities from the end of the school day at 2:30 until dinner time. Terry estimates that the cost of a rec director is only $6,500 per year for each school. What a wonderful fund-raising activity for each school's PTA. As an alternative, if the funds are not available, Terry tells me that if sufficient people volunteer, even for only a couple hours a day, one or two days a week, he will set up a training program, and open up the school playgrounds with volunteer rec directors. He urges all interested volunteers to call him, directly, at 478-6400. (Isn't small-town life wonderful?) I'm volunteering. I invite you to join me. - --- MAP posted-by: Josh