Pubdate: Fri, 20 Jun 2003 Source: Dear Abby (US) Copyright: 2003 Universal Press Syndicate Contact: http://www.DearAbby.com Website: http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/787 Note: Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. DEAR ABBY: My husband and I believe our 9-year-old son, "Andy," will soon ask us if we ever tried marijuana. I tried it in college and I think I should admit it. Grass made me laugh, but it also made me lazy -- and I was unable to concentrate. My husband, on the other hand, doesn't want to admit to Andy we smoked grass in college. He's afraid if our son finds out, he will be more inclined to try it. How do you think we should handle this? WEEDING OUT THE TRUTH DEAR WEEDING OUT: Honesty is the best policy. Tell your son the truth, including how it made you lazy and unable to concentrate. As George Bernard Shaw once said, "If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a WARNING and not as an example." - --- MAP posted-by: Richard Lake