Pubdate: Fri, 27 Feb 2004 Source: Elmira Independent (CN ON) Copyright: 2004 Elmira Independent Contact: http://www.elmiraindependent.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/1930 Author: Gail Martin THE TRAGEDY OF ADDICTION This past week, parents of students at Elmira District Secondary School learned just how close the national drug problem is. Some students were recently caught at a school dance with cocaine. While this might come as a shock to some, it is something that, unfortunately, isn't too surprising to me. Through my involvement with troubled youth in Waterloo, I know how easy it is for those who are struggling with all kinds of pain to turn to drugs. Many start with marijuana, something they rationalize is no worse than alcohol. They've seen their parents drink, and figure marijuana is on the same level. Alcohol, of course, is socially acceptable. Yet, it, too, carries many disastrous consequences for the alcoholic. In today's society, almost everyone indulges, yet we look down on those who become addicted. That is unfair, and unjust. Yet, that is the way it is. Teenagers see the hypocrisy in their adult influences, who tell them not to turn to drugs for solace, and yet turn to alcohol for the same thing. Why not try marijuana, which is relatively easy to get? And, for many who turn to marijuana, the harder drugs are not too far behind. This is not to say that anyone who uses marijuana will turn to cocaine. That would be like saying anyone who turns to alcohol would do the same. What I am saying, however, is that many youth are troubled and struggling with a difficult and painful world, and we, as adults, are not doing enough to show them a better way. I have talked to young people who grew up in homes where their dad beat their mother, or who have endured tragedies beyond what most of us could bear. I can hardly blame them for turning to something to ease their pain - especially when there seems to be so little available to help them. We usually like to think that those who are using drugs and alcohol to excess are "losers" or have brought it upon themselves. While it is true that the choice to first turn to drugs or alcohol is a choice made of free will, for those who become addicted, choice is often left behind. I have experienced first-hand the tragedy and heartbreak of addiction; I know how heart-rending the experience can be. For that reason, I would urge every parent out there to really strive to know your children. Be involved, and look for the warning signs that come with addiction. Take the time to talk to them, to find out how life is treating them - and whether they need some help coping with life's challenges. And, if your child is acting strangely, and there are no other good explanations for his or her behaviour, consider the fact that your child might be using drugs. I urge you to not turn a blind eye, in hopes that the problem will go away, and I urge you to take every possible step to intervene before addiction takes hold. We like to think that the small towns of this world are exempt from this problem, but that is not reality. Drugs are available, and the temptation for some to indulge is overwhelming. While the majority of students at Elmira District Secondary School are not going to succumb to addiction, some will. It's our job to be there for them when they do - and work hard to prevent the rest from getting there. - --- MAP posted-by: Jay Bergstrom