Pubdate: Sun, 21 Aug 2005
Source: Billings Gazette, The (MT)
Copyright: 2005 The Billings Gazette
Contact:  http://www.billingsgazette.com/
Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/515
Author: Ed Kemmick
Bookmark: http://www.mapinc.org/meth.htm (Methamphetamine)
Bookmark: http://www.mapinc.org/rehab.htm (Treatment)
Note: Meth - From Hell to Healing - a slideshow is found at 
http://www.billingsgazette.com/modules/flash/20050821meth/20050821meth.html

KAREN HILLEARY FIGHTING TO STAY ALIVE AND AWAY FROM METH

A little before 5 a.m. on Friday, May 6, a couple of hours after shooting 
up what she thought would be her last dose of methamphetamine, Karen 
Hilleary prepared to kill herself.

She drove her '88 Olds Toronado up 27th Street toward the airport, then 
onto Airport Road, heading east. She turned off Airport Road to the 
undeveloped parkland on top of the Rims, then drove slowly toward the edge 
of the sandstone cliffs overlooking Billings.

It was beautiful, she said, looking at all the lights. She backed up a 
little to get a good run, put the Olds in gear and gunned it. Flying toward 
the lights, knowing she was going to die, was a bigger rush than meth ever 
was, she said.

But it wasn't her time to die. Her car hit something, a rock or an 
outcropping, as soon as it went over the Rims. The driver's side door flew 
open, and Karen flew out. The car was destroyed but Karen lived.

"To be honest with you, I landed straight on my ass," she said.

"I cussed. I was mad. I was like, how dare you? I was trying to kill 
myself, and you're giving me my life back?"

After getting her life back, Karen finally decided to turn it around. She 
survived the plunge off the Rims with some internal injuries and numerous 
scrapes and bruises, and after spending a couple of days in the hospital 
she was admitted to the psychiatric center at Deaconess Billings Clinic, 
where she started the long process of weaning herself from meth.

For Karen, who is now in the Thunderchild Treatment Center in Sheridan, 
Wyo., part of her recovery is telling other people how dangerously 
seductive meth is.

"They didn't tell me I would lose my desire to work," she said. "They 
didn't tell me I wouldn't sleep. They didn't tell me I'd lose my job. They 
just told me it would make me feel good.   It's completely destroyed me, 
inside and out. I want people to know how bad it is."

Karen's life story comes out in bits and pieces. She jumps from year to 
year as one story reminds her of another, sometimes contradicting herself 
and confusing dates. A couple of weeks after she tried to kill herself, 
when she was still at the psychiatric center, she kept talking about how 
she'd been addicted to meth for seven months.

Later, after she'd moved into the Women and Families Shelter in downtown 
Billings, she said she may have been doing meth seriously for only about 
seven weeks. Later still, she said it must have been seven months. The 
details escaped her.

"They weren't kidding when they said it puts holes in your brain because 
I'm having trouble remembering where I was before this last month," she said.

She smiled, though, as she recounted her memories of Alaska, where she was 
born on Dec. 22, 1968. Her parents are natives of Alaska, and Karen is part 
Aleut Indian and part Haida. Her family lived on the little island of 
Hydaburg, near Ketchikan.

"I remember the smell of smoked salmon," she said. "I remember sand and 
crabs. I remember my grandmother."

When Karen was 3, her father, a Navy man, took seven of his nine children 
with him to San Diego. Her mother took the other two, Karen and her 
1-year-old sister, to Seattle.

She gave the children up for adoption, and they lived in foster homes until 
Karen was 7, when both girls were adopted by a white couple in Olympia, 
Wash. As soon as Karen turned 18 she moved to Seattle, where she spent six 
months tracking down her birth mother, Dolores Douglas.

When Karen found her, Dolores was a heavy drinker. Karen had already had 
drinking problems of her own, but her mother introduced her to a new 
addiction. Soon after their reunion, Karen said, her mother offered her a 
joint without telling her the marijuana was laced with crack cocaine. It 
was Karen's first experience with that drug, and she quickly became hooked. 
Why would a mother do that to her daughter?

"I don't know," Karen said. "I guess it's just the mind of an addict."

Karen said she spent two years doing little more than smoking crack and 
hanging out in Seattle. She had her first child, a girl, when she was 21. 
The father was a Norwegian fisherman she met in Seattle.

She later married a man from New Jersey, and they lived in Seattle for a 
time before moving to Chicago and then to Minneapolis, where he worked as a 
repo man. Five years ago last May, having decided to move back to Seattle, 
they were riding a Greyhound bus that stopped in Billings. Their infant son 
had been crying and fidgeting, and Karen didn't want to get back on the 
bus. She suggested to her husband that they stay in Billings.

"I thought this was a good, clean, small town," she said. "And it is a 
good, clean, small town. You just have to know where to go and where to 
stay away from."

She and her husband found jobs at a bar, working opposite shifts so one of 
them was always home with their son. Her husband died two years ago this 
coming November, basically from drinking too much, Karen said. She 
continued living here and was doing fairly well.

She had an apartment near Fifth Street West and Broadwater Avenue with 
windows that looked out on St. Francis Primary School. She dreamed of 
sending her son there someday. Last October, Karen got a big windfall, a 
$10,000 payment from her tribal trust fund. She paid several months' rent 
in advance, spent $1,000 on day-care bills that had been accumulating, 
bought some furniture and purchased the car she would later drive off the Rims.

"It was a nice car, too," she said. "It took me a week to find that thing." 
She remembers going to Wal-Mart and buying $600 worth of housewares. She 
was drinking and gambling some back then, but nothing she felt she couldn't 
control.

The first time she did meth, last fall, a couple of people she knew were 
using it and offered to let her snort some. Karen was working at another 
bar at the time, and she thought maybe with meth she could get more work 
done and put in longer hours. She says there was no particular rush the 
first time she snorted it, maybe because of all the drinking and other 
drugs she'd indulged in over many years.

Karen said she had done speed in high school, but that old-fashioned 
variant of methamphetamine was not nearly as intense as what she snorted. 
Even so, she didn't try meth again for some weeks. When she did, she liked 
what it did to her.

"No aches, no pains, no energy loss," she said. "I basically felt like an 
alcoholic - the life of the party."

It was November of last year when she really got hooked. She smoked some 
meth for the first time, and though she still didn't get the infamous crank 
rush, it was a powerful high.

She soon learned that they don't call it speed for nothing. Everything 
seemed to get faster after that - the rush of events, the frantic days and 
nights, the downward spiral of her fortunes. In January, she started 
mainlining meth, injecting it directly into her bloodstream.

She spent the whole month of January high, still managing to work but 
barely eating or sleeping. Almost all her free time was spent with two 
friends, a man and a woman, both users. They would get high, shoot pool, 
listen to music, hang out and talk for hours.

"Believe it or not, we did talk a lot about things that were going on in 
our lives, things we didn't normally talk about," Karen said. "But we had 
to get high to do it."

By February, she was working as a cook. She was barely able to work, she 
said, but her motivation was earning enough money to buy more meth. Her son 
by this time was living with his day-care provider, who was a friend of 
Karen's, and knowing the trouble she was in, offered to take care of her son.

Sometime in February or March, Karen stopped paying her rent and was 
evicted from her apartment. Where did she go then?

"You know, that's a good question. Here and there. I was always driving 
around." She'd stay at different friends' houses for a night or two, or 
she'd stay up all night or just drive around in her car. She remembers 
spending two or three weeks in a motel room on North 27th Street with as 
many as eight other people, all of them meth users. The deep conversations 
had stopped by then.

"I would shoot up, no rush, and play solitaire," Karen said. "And they 
would just sit there." Nobody would talk, and everybody was afraid to leave 
the motel room, immobilized by the paranoia that almost invariably infects 
meth addicts.

"I thought, what's the fun in that, and why am I still doing it?"

She remembers being disgusted with herself. She ticked off the signs of the 
meth user: "bad teeth, bad hair, greasy, big-eyed, shifty." She somehow 
managed to shower regularly and she obsessively brushed her teeth, trying 
to get the smell of meth off herself. But she knew the chemicals used to 
make meth oozed out of her pores and there was no escaping it.

The odor, she said, was "a sweet, sick smell. It's like when people get 
sick and have that sweet, infected smell."

In February, she thinks it was, she tried to kill herself for the first 
time. She parked her car in Riverfront Park and attempted to overdose on 
painkillers. She got sick, but she didn't die.

"That's twice this year I should have been dead," she said.

She eventually got fired from her job for failing to show up for work, "and 
I don't even know when that was, to be honest." She started pawning her 
belongings until a few clothes and her car were all she had left. She used 
the car to get drugs, trading rides for meth or helping run drugs - 
relatively small amounts, she said - for dealers.

She said she never traded sex for meth. The people she hung around were 
usually too strung out on meth to care about sex. "It's not even an 
interest," she said. "It's not even brought up. They just want to get high."

She grew fed up with herself.

"I didn't care anymore," she said. "What pissed me off was that I didn't 
care that I didn't care. Meth hardened my heart. It really did. And I 
didn't think that would ever happen. I learned the hard way."

After her second suicide attempt, after the weeks she spent in the 
psychiatric center and the shelter, Karen was accepted into the 
Thunderchild Treatment Center, where she is undergoing a program to beat 
her addiction. She knows it will be hard. Meth is even worse than crack 
cocaine, she said.

"Meth is a lot more addicting," she said, "a lot more - what's the word? - 
cunning, I guess."

Her goal now is to stay off meth and get her son back. He is still living 
with her friend, and Karen is supposed to see him on Sept. 7, for the first 
time since she left Billings.

She is scheduled to be released from the treatment center on Sept. 17, and 
her plans are to stay in Sheridan and continue her education. If she finds 
work and a place to live, she'll be reunited with her son.

"My mom chose alcohol over me," she said. "I'm not going to do that with my 
son."

"That's why I'm glad I'm in here," she said during an interview in the 
psychiatric center. "Right now, I don't think I'm strong enough to stay 
away from it."

She won't have much help staying clean. She said she has only two or three 
friends who aren't addicts.

"The others are meth users," she said. "There are no friends in the meth world."
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