Pubdate: Wed, 16 Nov 2005 Source: Clearwater Times (CN BC) Copyright: 2005 Clearwater Times Contact: http://www.clearwatertimes.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/1448 TIPS FOR EVALUATING SOMEONE'S USE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL You are concerned that someone you care about might have a drug or alcohol problem. You have tried to talk about it but you end up arguing and getting nowhere. We understand your frustration. It's hard to see someone you care about doing things you don't feel good about - especially when they don't think there is a problem. It can feel confusing and overwhelming. Don't give up; there are ways to get through. This often happens because you are trying to get others to see your point of view - this can prevent others from being able to really hear you. If you want to help, the first thing you will need to do is to step back and not let your emotions get in the way of what you want to say. Here are a few tips that might help: 1) Pick a time to talk to them when you are both calm and there are no other pressures. 2) Admit that you are not an expert and that you don't know if there is a problem or not. That is something that they have to decide for himself or herself, or with a counselor. 3) Stick to the facts - what you observe. That is your basis for concern. Don't exaggerate or use labels such as "alcoholic." 4) Share that you care about them. That you are willing to research with them, and learn everything you can about what a problem looks like. Not everyone who uses has a problem. 5) Work with them, instead of against them. It is not your roll to scold, judge or order. If the person gets angry or upset, stop the discussion for now. The problem didn't develop in one day and it won't be resolved that quickly either. For information on services available in the Clearwater area, call Yellowhead Community Services at (250) 674-2600. - --- MAP posted-by: Beth