Pubdate: Wed, 04 Jan 2006
Source: Dear Abby (US)
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Copyright: 2006 Universal Press Syndicate
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Author: Abigail Van Buren
Note: Abigail Van Buren is the pen name for Jeanne Phillips.  Write 
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MAN WHO RUINS POT PARTY PUTS GIRLFRIEND'S NOSE OUT OF JOINT

Dear Abby: I am 21 and my girlfriend, "Jody," is 19.  The other day 
she was invited to a party at which she  told me she intended to 
smoke marijuana. She knows I  disapprove of drugs and alcohol. When I 
became upset,  she told me to "lighten up."

I love Jody with all my heart and want nothing bad to  happen to her, 
so I wrote an anonymous letter to her  mother explaining the 
situation. Jody didn't get into  trouble, but her brother did because 
he had marijuana  on him at the time. Because I told her mother what 
was  going to happen, nobody was able to do what they  intended at 
the party. Now they're all mad at me. I  have been getting hate 
messages on my answering machine  and via e-mail. Jody promised to 
call me before the  party, but she didn't and went anyway.

I visited her at work and tried to talk with her, but  she isn't 
speaking to me. I have apologized countless  times, saying I didn't 
mean for anyone to get in  trouble. I love her more than anything, 
but I don't  feel any love in return. I am very shy, so I find 
it  hard to talk to her. What can I do? -- Hurting in Iowa

Dear Hurting: You have done enough. It doesn't take a  crystal ball 
to see that your relationship with Jody is  over, at least for now. 
Please forgive me for being a  "downer," but it's time to accept the 
fact that you and  Jody are at different levels of maturity and 
heading  down different paths. When and if this girl matures,  she 
may realize the fine qualities you have to offer.  But I have a 
feeling that by the time that happens,  you'll be long gone and in 
love with someone whose  values are more similar to your own.
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