Pubdate: Fri, 30 Sep 2011 Source: Montreal Gazette (CN QU) Copyright: 2011 Canwest Publishing Inc. Contact: http://www.canada.com/montrealgazette/letters.html Website: http://www.montrealgazette.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/274 Authors: Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, The Gazette MAN'S MARIJUANA ADDICTION DEVASTATES WIDOW Dear Annie: I'm a 67-year-old woman who has been deeply hurt. My husband died seven years ago, and I suffered depression. My psychiatrist told me to meet new people, so I did. I went to dinner with a girlfriend in an upscale nightclub. A good-looking fellow asked me to dance, and we clicked immediately. Over the next two years, we travelled extensively, cooked together, went to the beach and had a lot in common. My family embraced him and was so happy for me. He told me he'd been addicted to alcohol and tobacco, but stopped using both 30 years ago. Three weeks ago, he brought marijuana to my home and proceeded to smoke. I was appalled and told him to never bring it into my house again. He refused to quit and said if I want to see him, I'd have to go to his place. We had an argument, and I haven't heard from him since. I'm shocked the man I loved is an addict. How could he do this after all our time together? Hurt Dear Hurt: There were probably signs during your two years together, but people in love are prone to overlook red flags, especially if they are unfamiliar with the markings. We don't doubt that this man enjoyed your company, but his addiction comes first, and he isn't willing to give it up for you. We know you're hurting, but please know you also are lucky to have missed this train. - --- MAP posted-by: Richard R Smith Jr.