Pubdate: Mon, 25 Oct 1999 Source: San Luis Obispo County Tribune (CA) Section: 'Tween 12 and 20 Copyright: 1999 The Tribune Contact: P.O. Box 112, San Luis Obispo, CA 93406-0112 Fax: 805.781.7905 Website: http://www.thetribunenews.com/ Author: Robert Wallace, Ed. D. DON'T START RUNNING WITH THE WRONG CROWD Mr. Wallace: Some girls I like to hang with smoke a little pot and drink a little. I don't smoke pot and I'm not into alcohol and so far they haven't pressured me to join in. My mom wants me to stop hanging around with them because she thinks that eventually they'll put pressure on me to smoke and drink. I don't believe they ever will. We just moved to San Jose from Arizona and these girls have really made me feel welcome, especially at school. What can I do to convince my mother that teens are not under peer pressure all the time? My mom wants me to find different friends, but she doesn't realize it's not so easy making new friends. - - Kim, San Jose, Calif. Kim: "On the average, a user convinces three others to try alcohol or drugs," says Dr. Richard Schwartz of the Georgetown University School of Medicine. These odds tell me that eventually you will experiment with alcohol and/or marijuana, as long as you continue to hang out with this group of girls. This is why you mother is so concerned. Even if they don't pressure you to join in their "social" activities, chances are you yourself will want to do so before long. Since these girls have made you feel welcome at a new school, I can understand why it would be hard to reject them. But because drug involvement is such a dangerous path for a teen, I advise you to continue your search for true friends. At the very least, limit your activities with this group to school hours. [snip] - --- MAP posted-by: Jo-D